tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post2479827359411265281..comments2023-09-15T07:03:07.671-05:00Comments on Hamilton Family Circus: As Long as it TakesHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01879753863902363299noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-62967561402142849162007-04-04T13:53:00.000-05:002007-04-04T13:53:00.000-05:00All any of us really have is time anyway. The days...All any of us really have is time anyway. The days are going to pass one at a time. No faster No slower. I am glad that Jake is agreeing to go. He needs to be central in this decision making process. Nothing good will come of his treatment, no matter how long he is there, if everything is decided FOR him. He must make these decisions for himself. Ultimately, as incredibly scary as it is, Jake is in control of his time, his recovery, in treatment, but more importantly when he is out.<BR/><BR/>Heather, you are a wonderful example of being there "through sickness and health" and I particularly like your reference to the Rascal Flatts song. You are truly special. Only you know when enough is enough, and until then, continue to give it hell. <BR/><BR/>One final thought,<BR/><BR/>It sounds like everyone is concerned with Jake wanting to exit the program ASAP, if Jake is as much of an addict as it sounds like, when the time comes for him to leave, he will most likely be scared to death. He will learn to feel safe in treatment. Zero temptation. The tricky part may be helping him to feel strong enough to come home.<BR/><BR/>My thoughts are with you - MAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-39665794474315932602007-04-04T12:52:00.000-05:002007-04-04T12:52:00.000-05:00Whoever decides that he is ready to leave, I agree...Whoever decides that he is ready to leave, I agree with you that no one can know how long that will take before he gets there. You are right, he needs to go with an open mind and the attitude that he will stay as long as it takes to become strong.<BR/><BR/>I was hoping his family were supporting this treatment, but it sounds like they are trying to enable him?Kristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16771351540802344987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-43160550267770755432007-04-04T12:13:00.000-05:002007-04-04T12:13:00.000-05:00That is what I meant Katie....you explained it bet...That is what I meant Katie....you explained it better than I did though. <BR/>I don't know how you can tell when Jake is saying it is time because he really thinks it is time or because he is tired of being there and just wants out. <BR/>This is why I personally would rely somewhat on what the doctor is telling me because the doctor has seen this more than I.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-19872887714912839112007-04-04T11:56:00.000-05:002007-04-04T11:56:00.000-05:00I have to disagree with Jess. The adict is the onl...I have to disagree with Jess. The adict is the only one that can say, "it is time" - the trick becomes wether or not they have given themselves enough time to become strong enough to not use again. The other thing to think about is if Jake says "it is time" because he wants to get out and use, or if he says it because he truly is believes himself ready to face the world of temptation. Addicts are very selfish people. They are number one. I think that you will know he is getting better when he can put someone before himself. That is key.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-25138927561390813232007-04-04T11:17:00.000-05:002007-04-04T11:17:00.000-05:00At some point it is going to come down to time. I ...At some point it is going to come down to time. I don't think you can know the time frame now. You are right you can't put 30 days on it or 60 days on it. But my question is....<BR/><BR/>When Jake is nearing the end of his inpatient treatment the question will arise...Has he been in treatment long enough; has it worked for him; can we release him?<BR/><BR/>Then who are you going to let decide that time frame? Jake or the Doctor? <BR/><BR/>I would be afraid that any addict would only go as long as he/she needs to go to get the results he/she wants. I am not sure that they can know when they are prepared to re-enter the world of temptations.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-14321417198504198362007-04-04T10:57:00.000-05:002007-04-04T10:57:00.000-05:00It's so wise to look at it this way. Good for you...It's so wise to look at it this way. Good for you for realizing that it's not just a matter of "doing his time." This isn't a punishment where he gets off sooner for good behavior - it’s a long term process and commitment. <BR/><BR/>He may stop active treatment at some point down the road but the process of staying clean will take a lifetime. He will always be an addict, though he may not be a user. It's wrong for anyone to pressure you to set a time for when he can come home. How can you predict where the journey will take him (or you for that matter)?Lynannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02416883491055528952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-65599297129580010822007-04-04T09:42:00.000-05:002007-04-04T09:42:00.000-05:00Sounds very reasonable to me!Your example of the f...Sounds very reasonable to me!<BR/><BR/>Your example of the first step of many is very good - because a walk (or drive) takes as long as it takes to reach your destination you cannot tell a young child it will take 5 minutes to get to the end of a path because the child may want to stop and see EVERYTHING along the way and you can not tell a RUNNER it takes 5 minutes to reach the end because for the runner it might only take 2 minutes. So as in everything we do it is what it is and takes as long as it takes.OMHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09316600458810320044noreply@blogger.com