tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post6357897875179841943..comments2023-09-15T07:03:07.671-05:00Comments on Hamilton Family Circus: Calling a FriendHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01879753863902363299noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-14662727316224024852007-11-01T18:55:00.000-05:002007-11-01T18:55:00.000-05:00I always learn so much from your posts. I try to ...I always learn so much from your posts. I try to avoid conflict with people and over-apologize when not needed also. I'll have to remember the advice from your potential sponsor.<BR/><BR/>Ouch on the anon comment though. You are lucky to have friends tell it like it is, though sometimes I wonder if they go too far? <BR/><BR/>FWIW, I agree that it's a good idea to pick a sponsor that isn't a current friend for the reasons you and others have already mentioned. Your friend may be a bit sore that she wasn't chosen(gee, ya think?) but a true friend will recognize that the type of support a friend offers is different than what a sponsor gives. One doesn't preclude the other. The relationship is just different. You wouldn't want your counselor to be your best friend for the same reasons.<BR/><BR/>Good friends (and parents) recognize that we need to make our own mistakes, sometimes multiple times, to grow and learn. Sometimes a choice that may seem wrong at first may turn out to be a good solution after all. A friend can offer advice but needs to step back and accept without judgement your choices.<BR/><BR/>Likewise, a good friend will understand that they can't walk in your shoes. They will understand when you seem preoccupied with your own struggles that seem larger than life to you. The "you aren't the only one with problems" comment is a prime example of why a sponsor is needed. We can talk and talk and talk with our friends about our struggles but a neutral third party keeps us from wearing down our friendships.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-63271290698888798032007-11-01T16:47:00.000-05:002007-11-01T16:47:00.000-05:00I think it is ironic that the reason you didn't wa...I think it is ironic that the reason you didn't want to pick your friend as a sponsor is because of "her need to be right", according to you. Yet, you turn around and call someone from your group, just so they will tell you that No, No, Heather you are right! I don't think its your friends need to be right, its your need not to be wrong, because in the recent past you have been wrong on too many important things. If someone doesn't agree with what you do or say, you turn it around and say well, you wouldn't understand you haven't been there. Haven't been where? With an addict? No, you are right most of us that comment on here haven't, but don't make it as if you are the only person in this Blog that has problems, because everyone has them. No one's problems are worse or better than others, it is just how you choose to deal with them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-7813223982670998042007-11-01T15:10:00.000-05:002007-11-01T15:10:00.000-05:00I am glad that you are reaching out to a third par...I am glad that you are reaching out to a third party. They are going to be able to give you the most objective advice. They are also going to be able to guide you better- as they have been there.Bird's Eye View Photographyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08813489889625737678noreply@blogger.com