tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post8192475568977452800..comments2023-09-15T07:03:07.671-05:00Comments on Hamilton Family Circus: Ahh... the Joys of the Internet...Heatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01879753863902363299noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-35074017713111515782009-07-22T03:20:14.803-05:002009-07-22T03:20:14.803-05:00Seriously no one thinks either of the 2 could'...Seriously no one thinks either of the 2 could've had good intentions? <br />I guess annonymous never came back so maybe that one was negetive. I guess I took his/her comment to simply say that they thought that's what you were doing and if that's the case they didn't approve. <br /><br />As for Becky, reading the 2 entries I believe her, too! It sounds like she did get defensive and is sorry. Who else would write such a long drawn-out explanation and say sorry? <br /><br />If there are other intensions, then by all means off with their heads! But I hope for the sake of what's right at least one of you had good intentions and good for you for making it right, Becky! <br /><br />Trying to stay positive here! <br /><br />Heather, I think you are a good sister. You went above and beyond what people normally do by devoting your time to a blog for us all to keep up on. You can't changethe past but your devotion tells me you are willing to make it better and make up for it! Kudos!<br /><br />Prayers for continued recovery.Marynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-84541749329283336322009-07-22T00:04:49.333-05:002009-07-22T00:04:49.333-05:00its ok heather, some people are just mean and it m...its ok heather, some people are just mean and it makes them feel better to try to cut others downmajanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-74693109809334743902009-07-21T21:45:33.895-05:002009-07-21T21:45:33.895-05:00It's simple this is Heather's blog she get...It's simple this is Heather's blog she gets to manage it how she wants THE END !!!!!!!! She does not need any personal attacks based on someones misguided understanding of her post about her baby sister while she was in the hospital fighting for her life !!!!! Sorry if it seems like I'm screaming on your blog Heather but DAMN some people are STUPID . Take care girl , DaveAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-77752467326385034782009-07-21T20:16:07.916-05:002009-07-21T20:16:07.916-05:00Hey, Becky (and anonymous, wherever you are) - the...Hey, Becky (and anonymous, wherever you are) - the part where she says "part of this is because" (what you see as blame) reads as such (emphasis mine):<br /><br /><i>Part of this, I can tell you right now is because of the life I was living and the <b>choices I was making</b> about babysitting my partner instead of living my own life.</i><br /><br />She's owning her choices, not blaming the ex. I've not been through any 12-step program, but common sense tells me that's a good thing.<br /><br />Oh, and Anonymous: I fixed your comment for you:<br /><br /><i>Hey, Heather, don't beat yourself up! We all hate our siblings growing up, but those pesky parents usually turn out to be right when they say you'll be best friends later! We're all selfish assholes until we're about 21 or 22, so don't be so hard on yourself! Hugs!</i>Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09766563774773085437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-77901644552399221232009-07-21T14:18:12.723-05:002009-07-21T14:18:12.723-05:00It's always one sentence that people pick up o...It's always one sentence that people pick up on and run with. Happens to me all the freaking time.Aunt Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12146687582842259611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-44501609847099631572009-07-21T11:17:12.585-05:002009-07-21T11:17:12.585-05:00And if they're going to post something like th...And if they're going to post something like that at least have the balls to post their name. And it's a freakin blog peoples. It's about heather, her life, her points of view, what she's going through.....What shocked me was how long the response was....and I thought I didn't have a life!Courtneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04396173896841382802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-19723416013498362122009-07-21T11:16:02.516-05:002009-07-21T11:16:02.516-05:00Thank you! That does help. Now if only I can catch...Thank you! That does help. Now if only I can catch on to the- if they say they don't know you they probably do! I read all of those nasty posts and they all say they don't know you and give stories to prove it! I believed them! So much to learn! Thanks again!Annenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-13837253768130919082009-07-21T10:47:25.637-05:002009-07-21T10:47:25.637-05:00After the off the wall tacky comment posted by ano...After the off the wall tacky comment posted by anonymous (featured in your post) I would think that you Heather would not even want to be on their daily reading list. As in please do not associate my blog with that sort of rudeness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-50490287999890695372009-07-21T10:46:02.246-05:002009-07-21T10:46:02.246-05:00Anne-
In a perfect world if someone didn't un...Anne-<br /><br />In a perfect world if someone didn't understand something I wrote they would e-mail me. We would have a civil conversation about it and at the end perhaps we would just agree to disagree.<br /><br />However, when someone comes on my blog and attacks me under anonymous it leaves me no way to defend myself or clear up what may have been a misunderstanding.<br /><br />Heck, in real life these people might be good friends of mine if we could just talk it out. <br /><br />Perhaps it would be a oh... THAT'S what you meant. Followed by a OH... thanks for pointing out to me that it sounded that way... that's not how I meant it at all.... and then we could go for drinks....<br /><br />But in the blog world it becomes one anonymous comment followed by one obnoxious blog post on my part and in the end we are no closer to finding a solution and no one really feels better than they did when they started.<br /><br />Hope that helps.<br /><br />HeatherHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01879753863902363299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-26081345020427272492009-07-21T10:42:10.954-05:002009-07-21T10:42:10.954-05:00Anne-
Email and ask before you assume and comment...Anne-<br /><br />Email and ask before you assume and comment based upon your assumption. <br /><br />Email any unkind words you have to say rather than hiding behind Anonymous. <br /><br />I think that is the purpose of emailing.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01291377007084535060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-51590115883131779502009-07-21T10:40:12.562-05:002009-07-21T10:40:12.562-05:00Yes, this is a prime example of how people will mi...Yes, this is a prime example of how people will misconstrue a post into what they want to read. <br /><br />The people that know you IRL know that your x really had very little to nothing to do with this post. <br /><br />I would chalk all these angry comments up to the fact that they do not have the luxery of knowing your tone of voice. <br /><br />...and if annon DOES know you and is lying. Shame on them.kbreintshttp://alittlecrazyalotoflove.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-12894430526095776292009-07-21T10:39:19.439-05:002009-07-21T10:39:19.439-05:00Can I ask a question? I'm VERY new to the blog...Can I ask a question? I'm VERY new to the blogging world... As in I don't think anyone has ever read my blog, and I'm ok with that because I've read blogs for about a year now and see things like this happen and it scares me! I guess I have no backbone! <br /><br />Anyway you're the second blog I have read that says something along the lines of: if you don't like what I say email me instead of commenting... Well to a point anyway!<br /><br />Is there a reason you do it this way? Do you get much spam by havng your email on here? Do you really get any more of a resolution to mean people by them emailing you? Or do they even bother? <br /><br />Thank you for your blogger-wisdom!Annenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-4891473252999546302009-07-21T10:38:55.996-05:002009-07-21T10:38:55.996-05:00What amazes me is how there is a whole post on sis...What amazes me is how there is a whole post on sisterhood with "one sentence" where Heather grasps for something to excuse or answer why she stayed away. <br /><br />And that one sentence compared to the whole post has turned into rude comments. Are you kidding me? <br /><br />So Heather took a comment down, so she may not have worded what she meant in a manner you all understood, so you may not agree with what she said or how she feels....She damn near lost her sister to a tragic accident on top of going through a less than 100% peaceful divorce (not laying blame most divorces are not)! I have to imagine her emotions are all over the place. <br /><br />And I read the bottom line as: Heather feeling horrible she hasn't made more of an effort to be there for and with her sister. <br /><br />I can't believe the people that will throw stones at someone who is already hurt, trying and grasping to get up and recover.Jessicahttp://www.shaneandjess.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-84114670852116749332009-07-21T10:26:47.991-05:002009-07-21T10:26:47.991-05:00First I want to appologize if anything I said hurt...First I want to appologize if anything I said hurt you, Heather. That is not and has not been my intention. I do not know you and never have claimed to. Like I said in my original post, about 12 years ago I went through an ordeal similar to yours. I'm still not completely over it and I doubt I ever will be, but I have moved on and my 7-year live in boyfriend (I don't think I could ever remarry and he's ok with that) is completely understanding that I am damaged and have my moments.<br /><br />When I originally read your post, I didn't see it. When I read anon's post last night, I re-read your post and I understood where the word 'blame' came in. Did I agree with it? Not for me to say, but I understood where they saw it. But it made me remember a time in my therapy where I was placing blame on him. Sometimes in an obvious manner, other times more discretely. I know that everyone's situation is different and therefore everyone's healing is, too. I know it sounds crazy, but when I saw that post gone and the TL saying that's definitely not the case, that no way could there be any blame there, it hit a bad chord in my past. I took it personally! My comment, now that I re-read it, was more than it should have been and didn't have my true meaning in it, just my personal defenses shining through. The part about you deleting posts, that has to do with a time shortly after you released the 'story' on your blog, I made a comment, a lot in the same manner that you deleted, claiming I was someone out to get you basically and I was hurt. I didn't feel I should reply at the time because I remember how I was when 'it' hit the fan in my world. But regardless, I wanted to appologize since I know now that I didn't get across my true feelings which is this: yes, there is much more to your post than the one slight mention of your ex. My siblings and I all went through that as well. When I read anon's msg, it brought me back to my situation when I could've seen myself blaming that on him and saw where they were coming from about that 1 line. If they know you and have another agenda, I don't know. I just know that when I jumped that hurdle it helped me heal tremendously and IF that's an undertone others are seeing, maybe it really is there and could be a next step in your recovery as well! Sorry for any confusion...beckynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-79184694011786472682009-07-21T10:26:11.880-05:002009-07-21T10:26:11.880-05:00I actually saw merit in what anon said. The part t...I actually saw merit in what anon said. The part that says 'part of this is because...' Is placing blame. I went through a lot of this about 12 years ago, and a 'step' I went through was placing blame on all the things I regretted on him. I know now that I did that with a little professional help. I was actually curious to see the reaction biut I see Heather has struck again, deleting anything that doesn't fit with her way of seeing things. So before, TL, you assume that people in your position never do that, maybe you should do some research. I actually see a lot of myself now about 10 years ago here. It does take time to heal, but some of those people you deem negetive or not worthly of leaving up their comment, are often times right and you won't see this until you're much further along in the healing process than you are now! Maybe someday you'll understand!beckynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13638626.post-71932863351616041242009-07-21T10:24:08.031-05:002009-07-21T10:24:08.031-05:00I dont seem to understand where anonymous is comin...I dont seem to understand where anonymous is coming from.. I have never seen where you blame your x for your sibling rivalry.. I know exactly where you are coming from.. I have been there myself.. its hard when you are with someone who has an illness. you feel as if you are the only person in the world who could possibly make it better for him. and you lose touch with everyone who cares about you because in this difficult time how could you possibly know how much support you have to make yourself better when you have to constantly be in fear of what HE is doing next .. So anonymous until you have walked in Heather's shoes keep your opinion to yourself.. she has NEVER blamed him for the lack of sibling love.. she simply stated that her own world was so busy she didnt realize how much a SISTER could mean to her... People go thru a lot to help and cherish the ones they love... <br /><br />Heather keep your faith every day will get better and one day you will look back and thank the good lord for always giving you the strength you needed to get through all of this and make a great life for you and your son.<br /><br />TLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com