The back porch... it is a beautiful site to behold. Jake cleaned it all by him self last night, which I think is a pretty fair trade off considering I have to do all 10 loads of laundry, clean the upstairs and pick up after him in the kitchen. (But that's another rant for another day...)
My big question for the day is what is it about men that makes them think they deserve a metal for doing mundane tasks that we take for granted? The porch is my example of the day. As soon as he was done I told him how nice it looked and I thanked him for cleaning it. (If a little praise is all it takes, I will gladly dish it out.) However, apparently a little praise, is not nearly enough.
I'm pretty sure my husband wants a plaque, a parade, and maybe a little pink poodle on a key chain.* He has reminded me at least 5 times that the back porch looks SOO nice and clean. Each time I have said, yes honey, it is very nice. Thank you for doing it.
I wish I could get that much praise for the things I do every day. Oh look honey, I unloaded the dishwasher. Don't the dishes look so nice and sparkling?
* For those of you who don't get this reference it's from one of my favorite movies, Double Jeopardy. It's a line in the end when they find out she's innocent.
About Me
My son and I live on a farm in Iowa with a menajarie of other
animals. On a good day our life runs like a smooth three ring
circus. On a bad day one of the elephants escapes and charges
the crowd. Please join us in our adventures, just watch where
you step.
animals. On a good day our life runs like a smooth three ring
circus. On a bad day one of the elephants escapes and charges
the crowd. Please join us in our adventures, just watch where
you step.
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away......
8 comments:
I don't mind giving out the praise, in fact as far as my husband it concerned I dish it out WAY TO MUCH! I grew up in house where praise was handed out like candy... it was even was sitting in a jar on the coffee table.
Now, I crave it and think that my husband does not apreciate the things I do if I don't hear it from him. So - after dinner... I prompt him... wow! That WAS SO GOOD.. and then he chimes in.. .yes... that was VERY GOOD hunny - thank you! or.. "The kitchen floor looks great!" and he comes in with... "yes, yes it DOES!"
Jillian's got a good idea. You SHOULD buy some gold stars. That would be pretty funny. Stick it right on his forehead when he digs for some praise. :)
J is the same way, except that if I thank him before he tells me it's done, he says "It's my job, you don't have to thank me." But heaven forbid I should ever forget to thank him--I'll hear about how well he did the dishes, or how clean he swept the floor, for the rest of the day.
Good luck with the homestudy tomorrow! How many sessions do you have to have?
My sincerest apologies for being such a slacker about commenting. I'm so excited that you and Jake are living your dreams of adoption by beginning the adoption process. I hope the homestudy went fabulously (how could it not with such an AMAZINGLY clean back porch?), and am looking forward to reading more as you continue to adoption process!
My husband told me he can't help it. He has to point things out. I'm not sure I understand it, but whatever, as long as he does the cleaning.
Men!
Just happened to stop in from Erin's (PCOS Baby) blog - but had to comment! YES YES YES!! What is it with needing a medal and gold stars and the whole lot for doing something once that we do ten times more of every day?!? I've SAHM to two little ones (3 and 9 months) and the praise he wants for watching them for a few hours is hysterical. But honestly, he is wonderful and amazing and if that's what it takes, I can do it. :)
Since I took jabs from Jake all night Saturday night my reply to your blog gets to be my pay back....
I THINK YOU DESERVE….
20 first place medals, three week vacations, two week spa treatments, one week shopping sprees, 15 babies, endless amounts of money trees, a lifetime of chicken fetticini, and anything else you can dream of that is above and beyond a pat on the back or an "atta girl".
FOR….
All the days you have worked so hard to provide for your family when some days you would have rather thrown the alarm clock out the window and pulled the blinds(or quit and said that you didn’t).
FOR….
Visiting, hearing, and dreaming about that place with bars more times then you have seen on TV.
FOR….
Organizing and paying all the bills.
FOR….
Putting up with certain in-laws that you would much rather donate to charity and write off as a tax deduction (we all have them)!
FOR ALL OF THIS AND WAAAAAAY MORE!
So with all of that said, how many porches would you clean in replacement of all the other things you have endured and conquered, all by yourself without recognition?
Since I took jabs from Jake all night Saturday night my reply to your blog gets to be my pay back....
I THINK YOU DESERVE….
20 first place medals, three week vacations, two week spa treatments, one week shopping sprees, 15 babies, endless amounts of money trees, a lifetime of chicken fetticini, and anything else you can dream of that is above and beyond a pat on the back or an "atta girl".
FOR….
All the days you have worked so hard to provide for your family when some days you would have rather thrown the alarm clock out the window and pulled the blinds(or quit and said that you didn’t).
FOR….
Visiting, hearing, and dreaming about that place with bars more times then you have seen on TV.
FOR….
Organizing and paying all the bills.
FOR….
Putting up with certain in-laws that you would much rather donate to charity and write off as a tax deduction (we all have them)!
FOR ALL OF THIS AND WAAAAAAY MORE!
So with all of that said, how many porches would you clean in replacement of all the other things you have endured and conquered, all by yourself without recognition?
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