Sunday, December 09, 2007

Much Needed Break

Ok so maybe a day off turned into two or three.... it was a MUCH needed break!! Friday was a REALLY long day. Things between Jake and I have been tense. He has reverted to some of his old behaviors and I'm not 100% sure why.

I can only guess that it is stress and worry about his dad's situation on top of worrying about an assignment he is supposed to be doing for his sponsor that he is putting off. Whatever it is it has caused him to act very depressed. All last week he was tired and seemed uninterested in what was going on at home. On top of that he was angry all the time and just very unpleasant to be around.

It all came to a head on Friday when we got into a huge argument on the phone. You know as much as I have been working on it, I still very much let his mood affect my mood some times and Friday was one of those days.

Luckily Friday night he talked to his sponsor before their meeting and then a little bit after their meeting and has seemed to be acting and feeling much better this weekend. Hopefully with a few more heart to hearts with him things will continue to improve.

In the mean time I have been reading a lot of my literature and am hoping to find the key to letting his moods be his moods and not letting them ruin my days.

Oh yeah, and the heavenly massage that Jess and I went and got on Saturday didn't hurt things either!! :-)


Becky said...

Glad that you got a nice massage. Sometimes, it's the best sort of revitalization you can get.

Kbreints said...

Even in relationships that do not involve recovery- it is hard to not let "his moods be his moods" When you are married to someone- it is going to affect you one way or another. That is just the way it is. You may not find a total cure all from that, but I am glad to hear that he spoke to his sponser.