Well, look at the positive. You can't fight a divorce decree without a lawyer and you can't get a lawyer without money. Not your problem, you've come SO far. This is not your problem.
This should in NO WAY change your plans.....other than he cannot pay child support. Do not take on his problems - let him be held accountable for the fact that he can NO LONGER afford his apartment or food or gas for himself.
While I certainly agree with the other posters in that he was heading this way, I disagree that this is only his problem and you know that and that's why you are upset. Instead of scaring him sober, it may actually make things worse. Only give enough support that you can emotionally afford, but nothing more.
Please let this be his problem, Heather. You can't rescue him - you've already tried. Chances are that the pattern will continue of him losing employment and you will face issues of him not paying child support. Your lawyer will help you protect Zack. Your only responsibility now is to protect Zack - not to save Jake from himself. I am sorry you have to deal with this.
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hmm... it seems that I have seen him go down this path before... I am sorry - yet again that he has dissapointed you both. :(
I said everything I can think of or have to say on my recent blog post!
Well, look at the positive. You can't fight a divorce decree without a lawyer and you can't get a lawyer without money.
Not your problem, you've come SO far. This is not your problem.
This should in NO WAY change your plans.....other than he cannot pay child support. Do not take on his problems - let him be held accountable for the fact that he can NO LONGER afford his apartment or food or gas for himself.
While I certainly agree with the other posters in that he was heading this way, I disagree that this is only his problem and you know that and that's why you are upset. Instead of scaring him sober, it may actually make things worse. Only give enough support that you can emotionally afford, but nothing more.
Oh Heather. NO. My heart is furious and upset and unhappy and all that crap.
I'm so sorry you're going through this on top of everything else.
I'm sorry...I wish I had better words of comfort, but I'm way outta my league :(
Please let this be his problem, Heather. You can't rescue him - you've already tried. Chances are that the pattern will continue of him losing employment and you will face issues of him not paying child support. Your lawyer will help you protect Zack. Your only responsibility now is to protect Zack - not to save Jake from himself. I am sorry you have to deal with this.
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