Friday, August 07, 2009

Friday Confessionals

I have been more happy in the last 6 months than I have been in the last 6 years.

I have been more happy with myself and who I am and how my life is in the last two months than I can ever remember being since I was a kid.

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When someone survives something like I did, sometimes there is a tattoo to commemorate the event.

I always wanted one but got a bad taste in my mouth for them during my relationship with Jake. Now that it is over, the idea of a tattoo is intriguing to me. However, the thought of getting one absolutely terrifies me.

So dear readers.... thoughts on tattoos......

For them, against them and what the hell would I get if I was getting one?

Discuss amongst yourselves......

14 comments:

Anonymous said...

Well, I got a tattoo the very day I turned 18. I could not wait. Maybe it was my freedom to finally do what I want without my parents telling me no since I was now an "adult". Luckily, I do "plan ahead" so I knew I did not want one in any place that could later be used against me as being "unprofessional" so I got one on my lower back. Today, I wish I did not have it. It is faded and I don't want to get it re-done because 1) It hurt, 2) It costs $ I could spend on something much better, and 3) I have realized that putting ink into your body canno't possibly be a smart thing to do (toxic). The only time anyone notices it is if I am bending over and my shirt happens to come up a little and then I get the comments "I didn't know you had a tattoo?". Yeah, there is a reason for that! So, if I were you I would just pass on the idea and spend your $ on something else fun just for you....maybe a piece of jewelry??? Take care!

Jessica said...

Let's see....

Single mother, conservative budget....

Tatoo's are expensive and painful! You no like pain! :)

So with you in mind as the tatoo recipient I would have to say 100% against!

Unless...you can get someone to buy it for you as a gift which doesn't cost you a dime...then knock yourself out!

Bree said...

I have 2 tattoos. I got one when I was 18 and the other when I was 19. I didn't put a ton of thought into them, and now I am begging to have them or at least one of them removed. I too put them in places so that if I don't want them seen, they don't have to be. If you do get one, make sure it has significant meaning to you and that it won't embarass you. As far as the pain of it, depends on where you get it. The one on my lower back, I think I would have rather died. The one on my upper leg, I didn't think it hurt at all. Like I said it is your own choice, but I kind of agree with the previous comment, spend your money on something else.

Anonymous said...

All for it... If you do it right.

Tattoos don't have to be expensive unless you're going big and bold. Probably not the best choice for you.

Tattoos don't have to hurt. The fattier the area the less it hurts. Another tip, if you're looking at it, you're thinking about it, it will hurt more. Have someone go with you and talk about something else. It will be over in no time.

I wouldn't get something to symbolize the divorce because when you're with someone else, you'll wish it meant something else. Instead either get something for your son or something that symbolizes strength.

And most importantly, make 100% sure you will want it there. Even if you keep it secret and never show a soul, you will always know its there so don't do it on a whim, do it with thought.

Oh and go to a good quality artist as well!

darkship said...

I've been working on my post divorce design for about 5 years and finally got it close to what I want. I say if you think you can handle the pain go for it. I think the biggest thing is where to put it so do think about that long and hard. Get a design that means something personal to you, Zach's name or something to remind you of your family. Oh....and then post how the experiance was! :)

Anonymous said...

no matter how small, cute, or well hidden tattoos are always trashy - go with the jewelry!!!

Alan_Courtney said...

i'd vote no tatoo. you're stuck with it forever. and are you going ot think of deadweight when you look at it or are you going to look at it as your freedom?

Anonymous said...

Heather, I got a rose on my foot a couple of years ago - I went with my sister and I absolutely love it. (So does she) I don't feel trashy for having it at all. It looks great with sandals and I can cover it up when I am at work - or not. We got the same rose on opposite feet, it is just a another bond and fun memory we share together as sisters and friend.

Connie said...

If you have to ask....then DEFINITELY not for you. No rash decisions need to be made this close to such a big change in your life.

AZ Mommy said...

I have 3. I agree with Connie 100%. Wait until you are sure or you know the exact design you want on you FOREVER.

Erin said...

I have one on my outer thigh that I got when I was 18. I like it. It's cute. It's small. I don't think it's trashy. It can't be seen unless I want it to. It didn't really hurt to get it done. But it's also completely meaningless and if I were going to do it again, I would have chosen something with some meaning.

Still, though, I might go with jewelry as an alternative!

Anonymous said...

Whoever thinks tattoos are trashy regardless of their meaning, size, how discrete they are... is living in the dark ages. Tattoos can be very tasteful and very fulfilling. They can be trashy, and cause regret as well. It is a huge decision because it is forever but no one can really make that decision for you.

LivingLifeBackwards said...

I think getting a tattoo to commemorate your divorce is not a good idea. In 30 years this is just going to be a bump in the road. Do you really want to have something marking your body that will remind you of such a crappy time?
I have 4 tattoo's. I like ONE out of my 4. This is something you should think long and hard about. Thank God I can hide all of them. The one that I like the most is the memorial tattoo I got done when my mom died.

Jill A said...

I have three tattoos. The one I like the best cost the most, and I think that's a testament to the need to carefully select your artist based on work they have already done. That way you know their style will mesh with what you envision for yourself.

My oldest tattoo is the ugliest. My newest tattoo has significance and so I love it, but it doesn't look finished so I'm dissatisfied.

I'd say you would not want to get anything costing more than $50 to $100 because I don't remember you tolerating pain all that well.